Archive for November, 2023

End of November

Hoping to keep this blog from getting away from me, so hoping to get this month recap out as month finishes.

After Dave’s family left and Morton had his birthday party, Herb decided he wanted to see more of China. Dan was heading off to Hong Kong for a quick conference, so Herb decided to tag along. I quickly bought him an airplane ticket and booked him a tour for the day. The next afternoon he flew out with Dan. They got to the hotel late, had  dinner and went to bed. The next morning he went down to the lobby to meet his tour guide. Tour guide never showed up. People at the front desk told him they had a free shuttle bus downtown to a cable car that goes up a big hill in the middle of the city – so Herb took it. Pretty impressive – he’s almost 90 years old. He went downtown, found the line, made lots of conversation, took the cable car up, then walked up to a pagoda on top, bought lunch, found a bus down. Asked people for help to figure out what bus to get back to hotel in time to go to Dan’s banquet dinner. He had a marvelous time!

A couple days later Herb and I went to FaHai Temple. FaHai Temple has magnificent frescos that have survived from the 1440s. The emperor’s favorite eunuch at the time, brought together the best painters from all over China to paint these frescos – which apparently made it unique having all the best talent together. Apparently their paints were mineral based – which I don’t really understand what other paints are – but apparently this has caused them to last much better than their European counterparts. 

We bought tickets which allowed us to enter for 20 minutes into the dark room with a flashlight. Before entering the dark temple we were required to lock our phones into a small locker (so sadly no pictures). We had a great time though walking around with our flashlights looking at the painted figures, noticing the fastidious details, and trying to make out the stories they were depicting. A tour guide led the few others around talking in Mandarin and continually yelling at us in rapid Mandarin to “hush”. 

Herb at Fahai Temple. There were lots of steps!

A school parent invited Dan and I and another colleague of Dan’s to dinner at their house. The dinner was so lovely, with many small beautiful courses, but I want to show off this fish:

I think this speaks for itself! Unbelievable!

Other things going on at the end of November:

I met a couple friends at  the Beijing Botanical Garden, in which there is a temple with a reclining Buddha which my friend Dong thought we needed to see. We hadn’t seen each other since before the summer so we were more interested in catching up than admiring the Buddha, but the garden, although chilly , is really beautiful and we had a nice meal in the restaurant there. 

Afterwards I ran back to ISB to represent New York (but really Brooklyn) for the second year in a row at the faculty/staff international food event. We again served Bagels and lox. The bagels were certainly not up to Brooklyn standards but we are all just thrilled to be able to find some here. 

We went to a fabulous art opening of the artist Bing Yi. The work was beautiful and it was a lesson in marketing. She has created a character – almost an alter ego – that her work is telling the story of and she presents her work as if this alter ego made the work. SO MUCH EASIER to present the work as if it were someone else’s. SO SMART! She threw a large dinner after the opening a the Nue hotel, to which we were invited. It was a lovely evening.

Bing Yi giving us a fabulous tour of her work – telling the story of her fabled artist who “made the work”
Bing Yi performing at her opening

Now that the play Morton was working on is over he is full speed ahead with the ping-pong team.

Dad and his Ojiichan at his first tournament.

Herb and I finally got out to the Summer Palace. It was definitely NOT summer. We had a really nice time but it was cold and windy.

At one point we looked over and there were three lines of Chinese people. At first we couldn’t figure out what they were doing.

Should we be lining up?

Then we realized they were lined up to shoot a picture of the special temple through rocks. I don’t know why. I guess it looked amazing???? I didn’t wait in line to figure out.

The next day was Thanksgiving. Here it is a normal work/school day. We had originally hoped to celebrate it on Saturday but Dan and his dad would be heading to Shanghai for the weekend, so at last minute I decided we’d do a small thanksgiving. I ordered some chicken and vegetables to cook. The day before our friend Tiffany said she and her three kids would join us for Thanksgiving. Unfortunately we forgot to take any pictures, but we had a pretty mellow, but still delicious thanksgiving. It was nice to all hang out. I’d have to say my apple crisp a la mode with a home made butterscotch sauce was pretty yum!

The next Dan and his father flew off to Shanghai. They walked along the Bund (the famous Shanghai waterfront), and in the Yuyuan (rock) Park.

then they went to the Jewish Museum. The place was mostly empty except for a gaggle of high school girls. They approached Herb and asked if he was Jewish. They were writing a paper for school about Shanghai’s Jewish history and were excited to meet an actual Jew. They had lots of questions, which I hear Herb enjoyed answering.

Herb at Jewish Museum with gaggle of girls

Big brother David arrived that evening for a drink at the hotel bar dinner. The next morning they went up to the Oriental Pearl Tower (the third largest tower in the world) – which had a look out with a glass floor that apparently was pretty freaky to stand on.

On the glass floored observation deck
View from Tower

They then took at boat ride before Dan had to head back to the airport, leaving Dave and Herb for one more night and day in Shanghai.

Herb’s last few days in Beijing, he and I walked around an interesting art neighborhood called ChowYangDi. It has some narrow traditional Chinese streets which we wandered around – checking out a gift shop, a snack shop and then stopping into a drink shop for a hot drink.

This graphic was in the drink shop. What does it mean?

Then we entered the red brick area that AiWeiWei developed as an artist area, which has now mostly become for high end design studios and such but there are some lovely art galleries and we headed to an art opening I’d been invited to. We had a great time looking at the art, talking as best we could with people at the gallery and Herb raved about the “7-layer cake” he ate at the gallery that I recognized as coming from Sam’s Club.

Interesting artwork we saw at the show by Fan Zhongming

For Herb’s last night we took him out for Hot Pot, a traditional Sichuan dish in which you order a broth type base that is put onto a fire in the middle of the table and then you order food: meats, fish, vegetables, noodles to put into the broth to cook – it’s an activity and a meal. We had eaten this is in Chengdu. Chengdu is known for its fiery flavor. Here we ordered much more mild. I got a tomato broth and the men got a chicken mushroom broth.

Here he is preparing the noodles – stretching them out long before putting them into the broth. It was amazing to watch.

This morning Herb and Fumiko left at 5:30 to start their trip home – three flights! Beijing to Tokyo, with a seven hour layover, then to LA, with a quick layover, then to Tucson. Soon they will board their second flight. Our fingers are crossed it all goes as smoothly as possible.

Fall Update

Although I was sad to leave everyone behind in the U.S and fly for 20+ hours, it was also really nice to get back to my three boys (Dan, Morton and Milo, the cat).

It was a brief flurry before heading back out to Japan. During this time, Morton showed me the new ISB golf similator – I think it only took us about 20 swings per hole. It’s amazing how long it can be to play 3 holes!

Dan and I got reaquainted with Celia’s favorite breakfast at Jamaica Blue, the restaurant in the complex we live.

And I went with some tennis friends to the China Open Tennis competition. We went during the qualifiers. Few people were there and great matches. Other than the extreme heat, it was fantastic!

We caught the Matisse show that got majorly delayed as the owners of the works in the show (museums, collectors) were hesitant to send artwork while China was locked down – so the show was delayed a few years – to a time when I could see it – so convenient!  

And I was busy planning for our trip to Japan!

At the end of September, after I was back for about a week and a half, we flew out to Osaka. We were supposed to head to Ikeda to see some family after getting off the plane, but at last minute, due to illness, plans were cancelled. I had always wanted to see Naoshima so decided to head there. On the way we had to go through Osaka, so we ran to a neighborhood that is famous for it’s anime as we knew Morton would love it! 

Then we continued onto Naoshima. 

Getting to Naoshima was quite a haul – taking subway to bullet train to local train to ferry. We had some time while waiting for the ferry and we were hungry so we went to a cute cafe/tiny hotel across the street from the ferry. We sat outside on the porch, music played, food was Western, and the vibe was lovely. Dan got talking the owners – they had lived in Brooklyn. So funny! It was a pleasant ferry ride to the island – we just wished it were light out so we could see the view better. Once we got there we realized we were on the wrong side of the island from where we were staying and no idea how, or even if it were possible to get a taxi. We dragged our luggage along – walking to the other side of the island for about 40 minutes. Morton found a 7-11 to stop at on the way – which helped a little. When we finally got to the Google Pin for where the guest house was supposed to be, we couldn’t find it. I called the guest house but the woman who answered only spoke Japanese and neither my English nor my Mandarin was any help. Dan used his “keep wandering in larger circles” method of finding something – and although I tend to insist asking for directions is a better method – this time his method worked out. The place was a traditional Japanese house with interior courtyard with shared bathrooms and tatami mats and futons to roll out. I booked it due to lack of available options but it was great. Made us feel like we were in Japan – and not in a hotel that could be anywhere. We had a nice breakfast in the central garden in the morning, which the owner was advertising as a “cat cafe” – as her cats were there – and “Cat Cafes” are the rage over here.

In any case, Naoshima is an island that was mostly a fishing village. As the population was decreasing, as the youth were leaving for the big cities, someone came up with using art to boost the economy. Yayoi Kusama’s works are the big draw but several beautiful, small museums have been also built on the island and “Art Houses” in which artist have done installations. Dan’s brother David helped us reserve bikes, but when we went to pick them up the next morning, we eventually found out that he rented them from back on the other side of the island where we arrived. This time we figured out the bus. Much easier. And a good thing we booked ahead – all the rest of the bikes on the island were already rented out. We were so glad to get on them and start our adventures around the island!

A Yayoi Kusama sculpture
View from a beautiful museum
Appreciating art? Or just exhausted from so much art?
Yayoi Installation
Local bus
There is non Kusama art on the island but these are most photogenic

That evening we found a small restaurant near where we stayed. We thought maybe we were walking into someone’s house but once we walked in, a man came over and in broken English explained that we could stay if we wanted but we needed to be patient as he was doing everything that evening – waiter, matre’d , and chef all in one. Ended up wait wasn’t long and food was lovely. 

Next day we headed out to Kyoto – back on ferry then more local trains and bullet train. We checked into our hotel then rented bikes and headed to a temple that Morton wanted to see as some video game is based on it (no idea – ask him). I knew nothing of it but figured if he was interested – I was all for it. The biking gave us a great look through many neighborhoods on our way to the south east part of the city to the Fushimi Inari Shrine. Other than the video game (again, I have no idea), the shrine is famous for it’s thousands of vermillion torii gates. There is a path under them in which we hiked up for probably an hour and a half. Too many people and a bit anti-climactic at the top, but it was very impressive and beautiful, and there were interesting little areas just off the main trail.

Exploring some of the side aread

On the way down we tried an alternative path that ended up being a lovely hike down through woods and then through a quiet neighborhood.

Hike down

We became a little concerned we had gone totally the wrong way but we eventually found ourselves back to our bikes. We popped into a ramen shop before heading back to the hotel. We then headed to the hotel’s onsen (hot spring type bath) – I to the ladies, they to the men’s. It was lovely.

Morton decided to take advantage of the hotel and stay in while Dan and I headed out to find dinner. We quickly found a cute restaurant in which the beer was served with either tomato juice in it – or something else I can’t remember. It was fine but we definitely decided we like our beer neat. 

The next morning we took another train, bullet train, train trip to Shimoda, where Dan’s brother Dave and family live. Shimoda’s a beautiful beach town. Dave met us at the train station, took us out for a delicious Japanese fish meal. We then went to their lovely home, met cousin Lina for the first time (who just had her 5th birthday), and caught up with Megumi and Ty who I hadn’t seen in years. 

Cousin Lina so happy with her new LongLong Dragon

The next day, while the kids were at school, Dave and Meg took us on a tour of the beautiful area and we stopped at a super cute Onsen – basically in a small green house with plants growing all around.

Exploring Shimoda

The next day Megumi and I went out for a lovely run – Megumi generously tolerated my slow pace and short distance. Then Dan and Dave headed out for a long and apparently fantastic bike ride while Morton napped in the yard. 

That afternoon we went to a cute place for lunch and then decided to walk around the tiny town of Shimoda. Morton spied a shop full of old film camera. Megumi – acting as our translator – asked for Morton about the price of one of the cameras. They guy said they were just for display he didn’t actually sell cameras, but soon enough he was taken by Morton’s interest in them and sold one to Morton for close to nothing. Then we asked about film – a roll was almost the cost of the camera! – but Morton was so thrilled. The rest of the day was spent going over some basics of using an SLR film camera.

The next and our last day in Shimoda we went down to a local beach spot and spent most of the day there, swimming, taking the stand-up paddle board out, walking along the ocean front and eating at the small cafe there. 

Walking on path by water
Walking with Megumi
Last evening in Shimoda checking out the view
Early morning goodbye

The next day – back on train: local, bullet, local to Tokyo. We spent the day, checking out a couple neighborhoods in Tokyo. First together and then Dan and Morton headed to a tech neighborhood that Morton had been dreaming about but found pretty overwhelming. and I caught up with college friends Aya, and Ayaki. It was so nice!

Catching up with college friends Aya and Ayaki

The morning before we left we checked out of our hotel and wanted to get breakfast. Dan saw there was a Bubby’s – a New York restaurant we’ve been to many times. We decided it’d be fun to go there. It wasn’t up to the NY standard of the restaurant but it was fun to go and felt like a little touch of home. 

Got back to Beijing to a flurry of activity: Morton’s volleyball season in full swing. The school’s international day, I played in a silly tennis tournament mixer, we were given tickets to the opening game of the Beijing Ducks (of the Chinese professional league). Each team is allowed to have two foreign players on their team but only one can be on the court from each team at a time. It was fun to see but the level of play is not yet near U.S. standards. The foreign players were mostly able to dominate.

Boys at basketball game

A friend named Xin invited me to join her for the weekend down in Jingxian (a couple hour flight)at an artist colony there, in Anhui Province. She had participated before Covid and this was the first time they had started it back and she wanted to see people there. It’s in a lovely hot springs hotel. She had two Croatian friends who flew to Beijing and we all went together. At the airport we went through security and then headed to the gate. We were early and were hanging out waiting for boarding when a guard came up to Xin. They asked if she had lost her computer. They then handed her her computer which she didn’t realize she had left at security. We foreigners were amazed that security had found a computer and must have quickly checked the security tapes, saw who left their computer, identified who she was and looked up what flight she was getting on, and found her among the people at the gate- all very quickly. We then boarded a bus to the plane. Another security officer came to bus and up to Xin – this security officer had Xin’s make-up bag! We couldn’t believe it (plus she was very embarrassed!)

We spent the weekend meeting the participating artists, seeing their work and just hanging out. It was so nice to be back among so many creators! I wish I had knows about it to apply. Hopefully it’ll continue and I’ll have an opportunity. On the way back to the airport on Sunday we went up the famous Huangshang (yellow) Mountain. The scenery was stunning – but typical China attraction – SO MANY PEOPLE!. 

Beautiful location for artist residency!
In studio of Indian artist Nidhi Agarwal – lovely person and I love her work!!
Getting ready for a performance
Yellow Mountains! Such stunning scenery

That weekend was Halloween (here people celebrate on the closest Saturday) Dan was in Bangkok for a conference and I was at the artist retreat. Under pressure Morton gave out candy. Luckily we can count on Celia to always do it up for Halloween.

Celia and her friend dressed up for Halloween

The next morning, Monday morning, I went back to the airport to pick up Dan’s parents who had flown in from the States. What a trip for two almost nonagenarians! (Look it up! I think I learned that word from a They Might Be Giants kids song!). Two days later the temperature took a major dive and got quite cold (Beijing tends to have a week of fall and a week of spring) and Dave and Megumi and kids showed up for the week (I don’t think their arrival and the temperature drop are correlated, but maybe) Two days after their arrival, Meg’s sister and daughter came for the weekend. Lucky we have a big house! It was crazy but so lovely to have everyone together! We mostly just hung around, playing pingpong, sand karaoke, went to playgrounds, used the school facilities: playground, golf simulator, gym, rock wall…One day I took Ty out, who is twelve, and let him drive the TukTuk. That was pretty exciting for him. He was pretty good.

Lina enjoying ISB playground
Doing some origami with Obaachan

We did take one crazy trip with everyone to the Great Wall. It was quite a feat getting everyone there – we won’t forget it! For some reason I thought it would be easy as this one part of the Wall has a bus, to a cable car – but boy was I wrong! But it was an adventure getting everyone up and down in one piece! Half of us took the “luge” down (check out the images from around last September when we took it) 

Whatever it takes to get everyone up to the Great Wall
All made it!
Photos of us walking to the slide down, Cousin Ty, Morton and me
Megumi and Dave
Cousins
You do what you have to do to keep going

Tuesday the 7th was Morton’s birthday. A group of us went and saw the school production of Clue that Morton worked on the sets and props for and was working behind stage, and that night we celebrated his birthday. For him, no doubt the highlight was getting a ping-pong ball machine! (Other’s enjoyed it too!)

Jersey from a favorite Japanese volleyball player
She can be the princess even if it’s Morton’s birthday

Dave and family spent their last day at the trampoline gym – not sure it’s listed as a Chinese Heritage Site, but I think it was a highlight for the kids. 

Sunday night Morton had five boys over for his birthday. They went to a place down the block for pool, darts and bar food then came home for mint brownies and video games. I think it was a success. 

SUMMER RECAP

The summer was both lovely and busy. Celia and I left Beijing during the first week of June, flew Beijing to Seoul, Seoul to JFK, then we rented a car and drove to my mother’s outside of Philly. We spent time with her, recovering from our jet lag, and working on her new apartment. Then we went up to NY to send Celia off to her Brooklyn high-school prom and for me to catch up with my friends.

Celia and August heading to BPCS prom
Mom, Chris and Anita sending Celia off to the prom

June to July I mostly spent helping my mother recover from her surgery – a much bigger process than we had expected – but she made great progress and we finally busted her out of the care facility and got her to the beach.

Mom recovering and learning Racko

Meanwhile we were busy getting her new apartment ready for her to move in: picking out light fixtures, paint colors, flooring, etc. and negotiating the sale of her house. My brothers had been champs at working to empty the house of things she wouldn’t be bringing with her to the apartment. 

Celia got an apartment and a job canvasing in Brooklyn on gun control issues.

Celia hard at work

Morton and Dan arrived to the US a couple weeks after Celia and I and headed to the beach so Morton could look for a job before coming to visit my mother. He got some shifts at his dream job – working at Hartland Golf on Long Beach Island, and got a second job at the deli in Barnegat Light. They both were great!

What could be better than working at Hartland Golf?
Catching up with cousins

Mid July I snuck away for a few days to Upstate NY with Anita to check out some of the Upstate Art Fair and the show my friend Manju put on – which was so lovely! We had a wonderful time staying at Manju’s home.

Before heading back to the beach I spent some time catching up with Celia – going to the Brooklyn Museum. She wanted to see the Picasso show there – which was disappointing – but the African Fashion show there was fabulous. We went out to eat and made a few purchases at the Brooklyn Pop-up show outside the museum. All around a lovely day.

Brooklyn Pop-Up Shop Purchase
A major perk of being back in Brooklyn – catching up with best buddy Cody

Dan and Morton did the third rendition of their mini-golf marathon – playing every course on the island, biking from one to the other, in one day. Thankfully this year the wind agreed – pushing them in the correct direction up the island! I joined them for the last course. The perfect amount of mini-golf in one day for me!

Just after that, at the beginning of August, Dan had to head back to Beijing  (damn school to run!).

Dan grilling at the end of the rainbow
Dan getting in some kiteboarding
Paddle boarding with cousin Grey
Breakfast at Mustache Bills

Morton stayed to work for a couple more weeks before he too had to return to Beijing. I was a bit nervous, taking Morton to the airport to make the trip back by himself. My biggest fear was he’d fall asleep at the gate and miss his plane – which left JFK at 1:40 in the morning! But we spoke on the phone until close to his departure time. 14 hours to Tokyo, transfer with four hour lay-over there before his flight to Beijing, navigating immigration, to where Dan picked him. Pretty grown-up!

Leaving my baby at security at JFK

Judd and I played in the local beach tennis club tournament.(How do I have no pictures??!!) Judd made a sweep – winning the men’s singles, men’s doubles, and mixed doubles with me. It was so nice to hang out and play with him this summer! The women’s singles got cancelled as there were only two of us who signed up. My doubles partner Nancy and I came in second in the women’s doubles after Nancy had heart defibs and we had to force her to quit. But we had super fun playing together.

Women’s team tennis tournament.

Order of things is starting to get confused in my head but end of August brought many wonderful days of catching up with people. My friend Courtenay and her cute dog came to see Judd and I at the beach. I probably hadn’t seen her in …40 years? It was super fun to catch up. I snuck in a couple art making nights, art viewing trips and meals, and wandering the city with friends. It was all too brief but also wonderful getting to spend time with all my friends and family who I miss so much while in China.

Unplanned dinner uniform

While I was in Brooklyn, Celia was taking a trip with her cousin Zach and his girlfriend up to Montreal, stopping at Niagra Falls. Sounds like they had a blast.

With Zach at Niagra

I finished what I’d call my “Official Summer” going up to  Boston, spending a few lovely days with Elon, Anna and Celia and then moving Celia into college (tear). 

Celia’s dorm room
Got the swag – ready to do college

After moving Celia in, I quickly jumped on a train down to Philly to meet packers at my mother’s the next day. The next month was a blur. Tons of last minute packing and working to completely empty the house. Anita came down and was a major help hanging and positioning all the art work, and lifting our spirits as my mother and I were getting pretty tired – physically and emotionally. Judd, Finn, and Aaron came through as we tried to get everything moved in to the new apartment, cleared out of the old house, and help my mother get her bearings. And then Aaron drove me up to Brooklyn to have a really wonderful goodbye dinner with some friends and then bring me to the airport to begin the long trip back to Beijing, Dan, Morton and Milo (our cat).